"Intimacy means letting our partners know who we are. But we won’t be comfortable with anyone else knowing who we are until we are comfortable with who we are. And we won’t be comfortable with ourselves until we know we are living, as best we can, in alignment with our own moral compass. That’s why true intimacy requires moral integrity."
Yes.
Yes AND.
If we are comfortable with who we are, and face criticism from our partner about that (or aren't seen by our partner), that to me is also a moral thing. The more that a moral compass within self is clear, the more that that person will expect to be treated well and *seen*. I've seen too many women who don't feel this kind of seen safety while still being expected to "put out." It's de-moral-izing when that happens.
"Intimacy means letting our partners know who we are. But we won’t be comfortable with anyone else knowing who we are until we are comfortable with who we are. And we won’t be comfortable with ourselves until we know we are living, as best we can, in alignment with our own moral compass. That’s why true intimacy requires moral integrity."
Yes.
Yes AND.
If we are comfortable with who we are, and face criticism from our partner about that (or aren't seen by our partner), that to me is also a moral thing. The more that a moral compass within self is clear, the more that that person will expect to be treated well and *seen*. I've seen too many women who don't feel this kind of seen safety while still being expected to "put out." It's de-moral-izing when that happens.