A couple of observations to your well-written article. Even before we married, my husband and I planned to adopt children. We were totally blindsided by impaired fertility, but for the nine years until our first child was adopted from Korea, I didn't feel "acted upon." I wasn't defined by my husband's condition; I enjoyed Mother's Day programs and lived a full life. I trusted things would turn out well. Later on as an adoption consultant, I counseled with clients about the ways they had resolved their infertility issues before receiving approval to move forward with the adoption process. I had to learn to be sensitive about this because my inclination was to tell them to "buck up" and quit being victims about not being able to recreate themselves physically. Empathetic failure lots of times! Now 10 adopted kids later -- many of whom have special needs -- I am still actively parenting in my 80's. Did things turn out well? We'll see. 😊
I enjoyed this article, but I think it mischaracterizes the dichotomy it addresses. Cordner says we should sacrifice our penchant for order to the chaos of the Spirit. However, I think what she's really talking about isn't the difference between my order and God's chaos; rather, it's the difference between my order and God's order. It's not a question of order versus chaos; it's a question of who's in charge. I vote (except when I don't 😉) to let God run things.
A couple of observations to your well-written article. Even before we married, my husband and I planned to adopt children. We were totally blindsided by impaired fertility, but for the nine years until our first child was adopted from Korea, I didn't feel "acted upon." I wasn't defined by my husband's condition; I enjoyed Mother's Day programs and lived a full life. I trusted things would turn out well. Later on as an adoption consultant, I counseled with clients about the ways they had resolved their infertility issues before receiving approval to move forward with the adoption process. I had to learn to be sensitive about this because my inclination was to tell them to "buck up" and quit being victims about not being able to recreate themselves physically. Empathetic failure lots of times! Now 10 adopted kids later -- many of whom have special needs -- I am still actively parenting in my 80's. Did things turn out well? We'll see. 😊
I enjoyed this article, but I think it mischaracterizes the dichotomy it addresses. Cordner says we should sacrifice our penchant for order to the chaos of the Spirit. However, I think what she's really talking about isn't the difference between my order and God's chaos; rather, it's the difference between my order and God's order. It's not a question of order versus chaos; it's a question of who's in charge. I vote (except when I don't 😉) to let God run things.